With each of these posts you are inadvertently emphasizing exactly what it is you are missing and you fail to see it. You are implying that "sex" and "the act of love" are the same thing. Walking up the stairs and walking up mount kilimanjaro are similar things physically too, but they are completely different acts. Sex is great and on the surface it carries the illusion of being life affirming as it boosts the ego, but ultimately it is entirely insignificant. It is a small meaningless physical act, whereas the act of love is gives an otherwise entropic life, some real sense of meaning and purpose and adds a whole new dimension to the act. That is one of those things that as they get older and more experienced in sex, in life and in love, people "consider obvious".
"They become united to them by the tie of holy and pure love resulting in holy fruit, as marriage does in the production of offspring."
1. You are doing me a double disservice because not only are you trying to convince me not to pursue what I enjoy and find pleasurable, and affirms me and makes me happy, but you are extolling some other kind of 'virtue' - love - which is something I have not experienced very much from women and in fact associate with painful sensations. The only girl who said she loved me ended up dumping me for some local guy, and she told me that with him her 'kissing skills' had improved greatly.
2. At some point in your past you may have had a series of fairly short-term relationships including sex (which is what I am talking about; not treating women like prostitutes but more like the 'fooling around' common among college students, dating for a few months then amicably moving on, but all the while having fun with sex, and not doting obsessively on some single person), and you will have benefited from these emotionally and as a person. You may not realize that, and by trying to tell me that I don't need to go through that myself you are working towards damaging me and hampering my chances of happiness in life, even if you do not know it.
3. I have been an outcast from 'polite society' since I was born; as is well known I don't like socializing with groups of people and excessive chatter. I do like to have sex though. So if I meet a girl who also likes sex, then we share that in common - because if she is 'normal' and loves to socialize and chatter, and insists on that, then I can't make her happy and will not be able to offer her anything.
4. I accept that it is awkward to simply pick a girl up from some club and take her home and do her the same night. I would prefer like I said to date girls but not to linger on into the 'fighting' or stagnation stage, I would like to do now what I would have done as a younger man had I not been autistic and suffering from a big lag in social development.
5. The repression of healthy consensual sex among young people creates unhappiness and rebellion, and uptight middle-class newspaper-reading parents who are overly strict matter deserve to be hurt for trying to impose slavery and repression on their children.
6. Sex is nothing to be ashamed of or feel dirty about: those who feel that way about it are the pathological ones who should seek therapy and treatment.
7. Repression of sexual instincts, like repression of anger, creates internal conflicts, depression, fatigue, irritability, and frigidity.
8. If the world truly cared about me, it would prep me with the skills needed to properly interact with women, not tell me to avoid sex. Now, I know that the world doesn't give a flying funk about me - I am not naieve. I therefore interpret any attempt to restrain my actions as hostile in nature and hurtful, and I am extremely suspicious of those who adopt this attitude towards me.
9. Oftentimes frigid people disdain sex because they themselves have serious issues with it. Their way of coping with the instinct is not to embrace it positively but to adopt a repressive and punitive attitude towards it, or to sit on their arse and dream about an 'ideal partner', when in point of fact, you should be looking for an 'ideal-right-now' and be prepared for that 'ideal' person to change, maybe several times, until you find one that you can tolerate growing old and shrivelled with.
10. Generally speaking the sooner a young adult begins sexual activity the more socially adept they will be, and the result will often be that they have overcome their 'promiscuous' stage and are ready to marry when into their twenties. People with retarded social development still have that 'phase' to go through - and it must needs be done, because it offers joys and blessings unimaginable, and sates the soul, and makes the mind grow exceedingly in wisdom, truth and grace.
