Success

[jman]

How do you define 'success'?

[Aspergers Girl]

Success is not being a failure to ones self.

[jman]

How do you define success in a man?

[Aspergers Girl]

Same thing.

I don't see how gender should make any difference.

[zenemu]

I think success is a very individual thing. I think for most people it is overcoming the small things that usually hold them back; something that I would certainly say is true for most Aspies.

I am sure society has its own view of what success is, but that is a very fluid concept like everything to do with society. These days it is Bill Gates, whereas two thousand years ago it was whichever happened to own a horse and in a Tibetan monastery it is whichever monk comes closest to finding inner peace. It is a very relative and subjective concept, so it is an impossible to answer really without being more specific.

[Aspergers Girl]

You're right is is very specific. Success for one person woud be Getting married and having kids.. another a good job... for me, it would be getting back at my scumbag primary school teachers for the way they treated me.

[Remission]

Success is when you get what you want. 

[jman]

Same thing.

I don't see how gender should make any difference.

I was reading through some of your previous posts on WP, and there was this one thread called "qualities you don't like in men" or something like that and one of the things you listed was "unsuccessful/jobless"

First of all joblessness for most people especially in this economy is a temporary situation. Unless the person is a chronic bum, I really don't see how that person can be deemed undatable simply because of that.

And I am still trying to decipher what you mean by 'unsuccessful'

[Aspergers Girl]

Its more qualities I don't find appealing in a partner as opposed to "men".

someone unsuccessful is someone who does not even try to make their way in the world in any way, shape or form. Basically I'm not attracted to a 36 year old with no self support living with his mother.

It may seem shallow, and it probably is, but I don't find it attractive in people. One thing I don't do is complain about being single, which is good because that would make me a hypocrite.

Someone being temperarily out of work does not fit the description of "not trying/caring". 

I don't see why it matters what I'm attracted to anyway, unless its in a dating site profile 

[AS_Redneck]

You're right is is very specific. Success for one person woud be Getting married and having kids.. another a good job... for me, it would be getting back at my scumbag primary school teachers for the way they treated me.

I know exactly how you feel because I used to feel the same way. The best way to get back at them in a way where they don't have power over you (emotionally) is to be a better mentor than them. I wouldn't call it revenge but I got my closure by being the bigger and better person than them. I work for free with the kinds of kids that my primary school teachers would have gotten rid of by dumping in the first other class that they could, and so now I have a right to look down upon their teaching skills. Since then I have moved on and it's purely about helping the autistic kids now.

[jman]

someone unsuccessful is someone who does not even try to make their way in the world in any way, shape or form. Basically I'm not attracted to a 36 year old with no self support living with his mother.

I can see why that would be unattractive

I don't see why it matters what I'm attracted to anyway, unless its in a dating site profile

Was just going through your posts, and I thought that was interesting what you listed.

[Remission]

Its more qualities I don't find appealing in a partner as opposed to "men".

lol