Fresh off the camera - New video from Aspergers Girl

[Aspergers Girl]

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My thoughts on Quiet vs loud people with aspergers	LQ | HQ

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Which type of aspie are you?

[Remission]

Here in Scotland if you say someone looks like a pineapple that's considered having a sense of humour, not an offensive remark.

It all depends on how you say it too.

Put on your cute little smile and people won't be able to find you offensive.   

[zenemu]

I'm both to be honest. It depends on who I am with and what they are talking about. It also helps that I have learned to self censor a little over the years, as a major problem I have found is that people don't like being corrected when they are wrong about something or if they recall something incorrectly, so I simply never correct people now (unless it is in a work  related context).

It’s a surprisingly difficult thing to do, but I always try to give a little more consideration to words before I use them now and I make try to make an extra effort to use experience as a guide as to what will, won’t or probably won’t offend people. It can be tiring though, and if I am in the middle of a bout of insomnia or I have been caught at a bad time, then I am both very loud and intrusive or practically silent.

Another excellent video btw

[MrWINRar]

I've only encountered one quiet aspie, he gave this dead stare with his "glassy" eyes and bit his nails often, but he was active, like me a few years ago, as for me, I'm often loud.

[AS_Redneck]

I've met a few people that were most likely ASD, though I've never met an adult that I knew was formally diagnosed. The "loud" ones tend to take more risks in social situations, and because they try to engage in social interaction more than the quiet ones, they seem to be more likely to have a bigger social network even though they have also pissed off a lot of people. I haven't taken big risks in social situations in years, and I have very little to show for it. In my opinion, making a few absurd comments that I kick myself over would be a small price to pay to enlarge the size of my social circle.

[AS_Redneck]

I've found that sometimes apologizing helps too. Sometimes it tuns out that it wasn't any big deal to the other person (but they appreciate the concern for their feelings). I don't know enough about what happened to say this would work, but it's just a thought. Occasionally you'll encounter someone that will avoid you and won't discuss that matter. If they won't accept an apology that is then their problem.

[MrWINRar]

I've rarely seen Aspergersgirl put up any videos in the past year.

[SquarePeg]

"If you've got something to say, make sure it's not offensive, and if you're not sure, don't say anything at all."

Omg, this is EXACTLY what keeps me quiet during conversations! And I'm almost never sure, so ... I don't speak a lot. (I'm a "quiet aspie", btw ... in case you couldn't tell.) I have been told that I seem "perfectly alright" just a little quiet ... though it has come at the cost of some people wondering if I'm mute  I expect it's easier for a "loud aspie" to get a formal diagnosis, because they are just more obvious.


On a totally different note, I was watching the video, and I saw your avatar next to it ... you really do look a lot like your avatar

[Aspergers Girl]

Aspies and excuses.. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZjNmx6U6cc
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[zenemu]

People with Aspergers tend to have a strong natural sense of justice and they usually have an inherent sense of right from wrong. As a rule I have found that Adults who are consistently rude (NT or Aspie), tend to be so for their own agenda.

I think one of the issues here is the difference between being outspoken (possibly even blunt) and being rude. Aspies do have a tendancy to being forthright in their opinions and for the most part they tend to say things as they see them, but this is certainly something that be tempered with practice. I can't say that I understand social rules and the social graces, but manners are easy enough to learn, and it becomes quite apparent over time what kinds of comments and what levels of honest people do or don't appreciate. It is simply a question of respecting those boundaries.

P.S. Another good video Fiona, well done

[MM]

My dad taught me to be the quiet australian and it seems to work well.  I think I do better being quiet and reserved but I do say some stupid things every now and then.  Dont talk about politics or religion and make sure what you say is relevant to the conversation

[SquarePeg]

BAWWWW! But I have ASSBURGERS!!! DON'T BLAME ME - JUST ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM!!!!!!!

Blah, I hate people like that - if I'm rude to someone (whether unintentionally or if I'm in an impulsive, angry mood) or if I'm in an obnoxiously hyper mood, I generally try to APOLOGIZE to them afterwards (and I never bring up the phrase "Aspergers"). My mom told me to do this at a very young age, and I've been doing this since around second grade - so really, there isn't an excuse for anyone else, ESPECIALLY those other high-functioners.

[Remission]

Aspies and excuses.. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZjNmx6U6cc

You're smoking hot!   


And I have many excuses, being autistic is only one of them.  Being gorgeous is another 

[Shiroi Tora]

Well done...perfectly reasonable.

[AS_Redneck]

I try really hard to act appropriately in social situations. I screw that up periodically, so with more trustworthy people I tell them about AS and tell them that I won't be offended if they say to me that they don't like something I said or did, that way I can apologize.