I get too attached too easily

[AspergersAndy]

Hey,

Its just happened again just now and I just let myself down so much.

Every time I get close to a girl and we have more than just a friendship with her (you know - going upstairs "to listen to music") I just get too attached and even after one time meeting with a girl.

If my date (usually only 1) goes well I just get too obsessed and too much thinking she is my girlfriend already, I am on facebook changing my marital status from single to in a relationship when its further from the truth.

Just now a girl who added me on facebook and I just had phone sex, and she wanted more, and we arranged to ''hook up'' next week at some point.

3 hours ago she text me saying to delete her number, its too pervy, shes back with her ex, all the usual bull$h!+ that girls come up with.  I just got my hopes up far too high and to be taken away from me suddenly.

Now I just want to cry and shes just constantly texting me bull$h!+ every few minutes.

Fiona (if I can call you Fiona, AspergersGirl?) do you have the same problem with guys (or girls... depending on your preference) and do you have any advice and tips that I could try to stop myself getting too attached? 

Does anyone-else have the same problem?

Thanks in advance.

Andy

[MM]

been their done that as well dont get to down yourself but try to work on the clingyness I have found people dont like it much

[KingofCorrect]

The chocolate candy shelled man is correct, clingyness is a major turnoff for a girl. However, this girl seems like she just wanted to mess with your head, or she panicked and backed out because she realized you wanted something more serious than a mind screw of the phone.

[Nie]

andy this chic is just messing around with you. dont take it seriously, just play along with her for thats all shes doing anyway. if you want a serious relationship find someone else. reciprocate, if shes toying with you, just have fun and do the same.

[AspergersAndy]

The chocolate candy shelled man is correct, clingyness is a major turnoff for a girl. However, this girl seems like she just wanted to mess with your head, or she panicked and backed out because she realized you wanted something more serious than a mind screw of the phone.

andy this chic is just messing around with you. dont take it seriously, just play along with her for thats all shes doing anyway. if you want a serious relationship find someone else. reciprocate, if shes toying with you, just have fun and do the same.

see i dont think i get too clingy, i always feel its the other way around.  :S

girlfriends and potential girlfriends are so confusing.

im sorry to be abit thick but what does reciprocate mean?

[Nie]

return what youre getting.

seems youre jsut being used as a stress relief for this woman, just do the same and vent and fool around with her for entertainment or something.

so you dont get confused, just dont even think of the word girlfriend and just let things happen as they do

[zenemu]

Perhaps you should just try to find some female friends and leave it at that and also some seperate casual, no strings attached one-night stands, see how that goes for you for a while. Maybe it will give you a little more perspective on things.