Do you wish you had a girlfriend/boyfriend?

[Balthus]

Do you wish you had a girlfriend/boyfriend?

I sometimes wish I had a girlfriend, but at the same time realize that in having a girlfriend it would mean that I have more responsibilities in life. Girlfriends/boyfriends can be very tough to keep happy....



Anyway, do you wish you presently had a significant other?

[IndispensablePeaGuy]

Not particularly. An ex mate became paranoid and stuck-up when he got a girlfriend.

I find it stupid that people ditch friends once they get a gf or bf.

[Balthus]

Not particularly. An ex mate became paranoid and stuck-up when he got a girlfriend.

I find it stupid that people ditch friends once they get a gf or bf.

I bet I know who you're talking about.

[Earl Purple]

Well not now because I'm married but I think in the past I spent too much energy in trying to get into a relationship. Actually I'm not sure I wanted one so much, I just wanted female "contact" in my life, but it was just like a relationship was the only way to get any.

I think having lots of good female friends can be better than relationships anyway, but aspies will tend to find it hard to get that, so will tend to look for a relationship. I think aspies are less happy being single than NTs.

[FrankSinatra]

not really, although there are people I fancy, I really do not think I can cope with a relationship at this point

[Aspergers Girl]

No they're more trouble than they're worth.

[writer2036]

I'm definitely ready to settle down but with the right person. I believe I can stay commited to the person for life too. Just so hard to meet people these days offline.

[zack007attack]

I have wanted a girlfriend ever since I saw many of my friends find romance with women.

My best friend from the college I go to once told me, "it will happen when you least expect it". And right he is.

There was this one woman, who was a classmate of mine last spring, who I formed a semi-romantic relationship with, but when it was time to return home for the summer, I didn't keep contact with her and now she has a boyfriend.

My best friend was right. but because I didn't keep my this relationship with my classmate firm when it mattered a lot, she found romance elsewhere and I felt depressed about it for awhile.

This relationship was small and shortlived, but I learned how important it is to keep contact, even when you are away from each other.

So now I am, awaiting for that next special someone to cross paths with.

[jay]

The idea of one is nice...


reality may be another story.

[nivago]

Yes i wish that some girl would take the time to get to no me better, understanding my problem with understanding my need - to be happy, to be love, to have a girl to love, to be comfortable with life.

[SanFranGirl1982]

I'm still seering from my last boyfriend burning me. Although he broke up with me in a very kind manner, he was back in my bed about 3 weeks later. This Friends with Benefits arrangement lasted for 3 years. That whole time I kept analyzing his behavior with me and his string of short term relationships as indications he would eventually get back togther with me. He eventully got together with a mutual aquaintance of ours (someone who had emotionally hurt him the summer he an I first met her). This "friend" of mine told me she was dating my ex and also said she wanted to maintain her friendship with me. She claimed she was training to become a counselor and had been takin classes in the subject and offered to help me get over my ex should I ever need it. A year after she made her offer I was still struggling with letting go of me ex and took her up on her offer but only as a last resort. I had this conversation with her via facebook email, and put in a lot of effort softening the blow of explaining to her that the reason why I was stll hung up on my ex was because of the FWB situation, making sure to shower her with compliments and other mushy ego stroking stuff. She turned on me like a rapid dog, talking to me like I had said something horribly offensive that was uncalled for (hypocritical coming from her, she has a very sordid and publically known sexual history). I found out much later that this ex friend of mine has been for many years seeing a psychotherepist. Needless to say I went verbally balistic on both their asses to 1) do a return-to-sender for all the pain I was in and 2) to burn my bridges with both of them

Its been a little over a year and I'm still very reluctant to enter another relationship.

[MrWINRar]

Not right now.

[zenemu]

I've been with my current partner seven years, we are getting married next year. I must admit I had quite a few rough relationships prior to this one though

[Aspergers Girl]

I've been with my current partner seven years, we are getting married next year. I must admit I had quite a few rough relationships prior to this one though

Congratulations. Hopefully you've come out clean on the other side with this one. 

[MyGhost]

Sixth time was the charm, for me.
I got married a couple of years ago, but before that, a string of relationships, each one seeming to last a shorter time than the previous one was making me quite bitter.
I was losing hope, especially as I didn't know what the reason was (I was only diagnosed a few months ago, and simply didn't know before then).
If I hadn't got lucky and met someone who actually got me, I'd have given up by now.

A big problem I always had was in knowing if a woman was interested, or even liked me.
If they didn't come right out and tell me to my face, I had no idea how they felt, and usually assumed that they didn't like me.
Fortunately there are some pretty brazen women out there who are happy to flout convention and are not backward about being forward.

When it came to actually meeting women though, your typical venues... clubs, bars or whatever were completely out of the question.
For me it had to be a controlled situation where I knew the rules, so that was CB radio in the 80s and 90s, and then the internet by '99 onwards.
I met my wife on a dating site, and absolutely swear by them. You know that anyone you meet on them is at the very least looking to meet someone.
 
I wrote a hugely detailed profile, going into my likes, dislikes, temperament, the type of person I was looking for etc... everything a potential partner might ask in person.
I detailed my good points and my bad points... no sense in hiding any of it, as they're going to find out anyway if you meet them, but also no point labouring any of those points either. I played to my strengths, but didn't hide my weaknesses.

I didn't get many responses, and I'm sure most women who saw it thought "Who's this fruit bat?" But one person did respond.... and the rest is history.